Scheduling The Bachelor/ette Party


Today, we’d like to talk a bit about bachelor/ette parties. You probably know from experience that these parties can vary from a pretty tame night in with a few friends, to a more localized version of The Hangover.

We aren’t going to get into all the dirty details that can take place during such a momentous gathering in this post. Instead, today we want to explore your options. More specifically addressing the question — Should you have your party the night before the wedding or should you schedule it beforehand?

Here are some thoughts to consider for both contingencies —

Having A Bachelor/ette Party the Night Before

  1. Everyone is already in town. Score points for attendance!
  2. It’s the traditional time to hold the party. People expect it and will be in full party mode by the time the night starts.
  3. Being able to prep everyone for the following day, since they’ll all be in one place. Hand out schedules and give last minute instructions before the party starts. That way, everyone can remember (or email themselves) what their duties are for the next day.

When It Goes Right: A friend once told us of how she had prepared both the male and female parties for all contingencies. “I reminded them not to obliterate themselves and that there’d be no room for ridiculousness once morning rolled around. Then, the next morning, we gave everyone the traditional bridesmaid and groomsmen gift bags. Along with trinkets and mementos, we also included some aspirin, tiny gatorade bottles, and rolls of Tums. They thought it was hilarious!”

When It Goes Wrong: We know of someone who stood in her front yard (minus shoes) holding a bucket for her intended as he returned in the early morning hours of their wedding day. Make a plan, section off some hotel rooms, and don’t let this be your fate.

Having A Bachelor/ette Party At Least a Week Before The Big Day

  1. You won’t be hungover for your wedding. That dress that’s specifically fitted to you will fit, you won’t have to cover up prominent dark circles, and you won’t have the urge to vomit all over your mother-in-law. Win!
  2. Everyone will be able to party with wild abandon, since you can schedule it on a free weekend. No alarms or anything has to happen on the following morning.
  3. You have the ability to turn it into a weekend trip. Go to Vegas, head to a winery, enroll in a weekend spa retreat. Do whatever fits your group’s vibe and budget, then enjoy a full weekend with your besties.

When It Goes Right: A bride we know planned her bachelorette party on the same weekend as the wedding shower. Since she knew most people would be there for the shower, she coordinated the two. According to her, it made the whole experience much more memorable and special.

When It Goes Wrong: Another friend let us know that her party flopped when 1/8th of her invited guests were able to show. Most of her friends lived out of town, since she had moved across the country, and they couldn’t make two separate plane trips.


No matter what time you choose to have your party, make sure that you are all safe and happy. Don’t forget to do whatever suits your crowd the best and have a great time!

Happy planning!

– The Gala Pal Team



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